I was in Costa Rica with Michelle for 10 days.
In ten days you talk.
A day of frothy rum drinks and too much sun leads to the tumbling of secrets as we dig our toes into the sand and lean across our beachfront table towards each other. We talk about how I stood on a short board, the potency of her anger at her absent father, how even I don’t approve of the guy I’ve been seeing.
We talk about my desire to be loved. About my relationship with my mother.
“You’re… complex.” She said.
I’m glad she said complex instead of complicated. I’m only complicated if you’re trying to solve me. Undo me and put me into neat little piles. If you want to know me – to swivel, pull, lick, grab, beg, and wonder… then I am complex. A messy past and a hopeful future. A mismatched barricade hobbled together out of thrift store furniture. A Cubist painting with a sideways smile you could never appreciate unless you’re up close and in person.
I don’t need to be simple. I am what I am. I just don’t want a lack of simplicity to be treated as an error that needs correcting.
I am what I am.
And I am, it seems, complex.